The Dove Center can help.  You are NOT alone.  Call and discover that men are beginning to work together to help themselves.  You CAN break out of the cycle.    24-hour Hotline: 301-334-9000



For Additional Information use one of
the following connections:

Oakland Office: (301) 334-6255

Grantsville Office: (301) 895-4300

Toll Free: 1-(800) 656-HOPE (4673)

Fax: 301-245-4525

Email: dove@gcnetmail.net


Look After Yourself by:
Always seeking medical help for injuries.
Keep a record. Call the Police.
Don’t keep silent. Plan for the worst.
Recognize that it happens to other men, as well.
 

       IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP
                 ABUSIVE ?

Your partner calls you names or puts you
down in front of other people.

Your partner acts jealous when you talk to
the opposite sex.

You apologize for and make excuses for
your partner’s behavior.

You frequently cancel plans at the last
minute, because of your partner.

Your partner is always checking up on you
by calling or paging you and demanding to know where you have been and who you are with.

You have seen your partner lose his/her temper, maybe even break or hit things
when mad.

You are worried about upsetting your
partner or making your partner angry.

You give up things that used to be important
to you, such as spending time with friends
or other activities and you are becoming
more and more isolated.

You have injuries that you hide with
clothing or long sleeves, etc.

Your weight, appearance, grades or job performance have changed dramatically.
(This could be signs of depression, caused
by abuse).
(Watch for ANY of the above in your own
or your friend’s relationship).

You May Have Some of
    These Feelings:

 Read the information below to begin to identify your problems and learn how you can begin to help yourself and your family. This is not affecting just you.
 
  • You may not have believed until recently that her behavior could be labeled as violent.
  • If you feel uncomfortable and unsafe in her presence something is wrong. You are the best judge of how safe you are.
  • You may not have told anyone about the violence.
  • You may have told friends who have not understood your danger and distress.
  • Acknowledge the pain and grief of abuse.
  • Afraid to tell anyone
  • Depressed or humiliated
  • Inadequate as a partner
  • Guilty about leaving her or afraid of being alone
  • Furious about her behavior
  • Confused because sometimes she is loving and kind
  • Frustrated and sad because you can’t change her
  • Afraid of continued violence if you leave
  • Worried that you may lose your male identity if people know what has been going on
  • Worried about your financial security
  • Made to believe that you deserved it
  • Fear for your children’s safety & well-being